A space to think out loud.
A counsellor who has been where you are.
For a long time, I was the person who kept everything moving. Senior director, big job, constant travel, and somewhere along the way it became the expectation that I would keep the rest of life running smoothly alongside it too. I know what that exhaustion feels like, the kind that does not shift after a good night's sleep, the tiredness that comes from being relied upon by everyone and really known by almost no one.
I do not show up with a script. Chatty, energetic, loyal and not the blank-faced nodding type.
Read more about DebiI work with individuals and couples across a range of areas. Some people arrive knowing exactly what they want to talk about. Others know only that something is not right. Both are a perfectly good place to start.
Relationships do not break overnight. They drift. I work with couples who want to understand each other better using Emotionally Focused Therapy.
You have worked hard, delivered and kept going, and now something has shifted. Maybe the drive has gone. Maybe you are functioning but empty. Burnout does not always arrive dramatically. I have lived that. I work with people who are quietly struggling inside a life that looks successful from the outside.
Grief does not follow rules, and it does not keep a schedule. It shows up in the middle of ordinary days. Whether your loss is recent or something you have carried quietly for years, there is no pressure here to be further along than you are.
Losing a senior role hits identity, status, self-worth and security all at once. I have been made redundant and I know what it feels like. This is a space where you do not have to pretend otherwise.
Menopause is not just physical. For many people it arrives alongside a loss of confidence that is hard to explain when nothing dramatic has happened. I am at that stage of life myself and understand from the inside how disorienting it can be.
Domestic abuse, blended family life, anxiety, low mood. You do not need a dramatic event to seek support. The things that are hard to name are worth bringing too.
No paperwork. No commitment. Just a 20-minute call to see whether working together feels right. If you are wondering whether this is for you, let us just talk.
Book Your Free ConsultationFor a long time, I was the person who kept everything moving. Senior director, big job, constant travel, and somewhere along the way it became the expectation that I would keep the rest of life running smoothly alongside it too. Work did not stop when I walked through the door at home, and home did not stop when I walked back out in the morning.
I know what that exhaustion feels like, the kind that does not shift after a good night's sleep. The tiredness that comes from being relied upon by everyone and really known by almost no one. I led large teams, managed redundancies, and then one day I was made redundant myself. It hit me harder than I expected, and if I am honest, it was one of the things that set me on this path.
I also have personal experience of navigating significant difficulty behind a functioning exterior, carrying something serious through a full-time senior career while keeping it together on the outside. I am telling you this not for sympathy, but because if you are sitting in a similar place right now, I want you to know that I understand it from the inside and not just from a textbook.
It was during Covid, when I started volunteering with Samaritans, that something shifted. I went in thinking I had something to give and came out understanding how much I had to learn, and how much this work mattered to me. I have since volunteered with The Blue Door, Cruse Bereavement Care and Mind. I retrained, and somewhere in that process I stopped mistaking a full diary for a good life.
I still take occasional consultancy work in supply chain and strategy, not because I have not committed to counselling, but because I think there is something honest about still being part of the world my clients are navigating. I am not standing outside it telling you what to do. I am in it too.
I read a lot. I swim. I have been known to turn up to something like hammock yoga just to see what it is. I stopped pressuring myself to project a particular image a while ago and I have not missed it. I am part of a blended family, which means that territory is not something I have studied but something I live, with all the complexity that comes with it. Chatty, energetic, loyal and not the blank-faced nodding type.
You do not need the right words. You just need someone who will hear them.
You just need to want things to be different. Most of what is listed below I have trained in specifically or lived through, and usually both.
Relationships do not break overnight. They drift. Things go unsaid, small patterns form that neither person fully chose, and before long the distance feels normal. I work with couples who want to understand each other better, communicate more honestly and find their way back to each other before things become harder to unpick.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy in my couples work. Developed by Dr Sue Johnson, EFT works with the patterns underneath relationship difficulty, the attachment needs, the fears and the cycles that keep couples stuck. It is one of the most well-researched approaches to couples therapy available.
I work with couples at an early to moderate stage of relational difficulty rather than in acute crisis.
You have worked hard, delivered and kept going, and now something has shifted. Maybe the drive has gone. Maybe you are functioning but empty. Maybe you have started wondering what the point of all of it is.
Burnout does not always arrive dramatically. Often it is a slow erosion of energy, meaning and the version of yourself you thought you knew. I have lived that. I work with people who are quietly struggling inside a life that looks successful from the outside, and with anyone at midlife who knows something needs to change but has not yet found the language for what.
Menopause is not just physical. For many people it arrives alongside a loss of confidence that’s hard to explain when nothing dramatic has happened. I am at that stage of life myself and I understand from the inside how disorienting it can be, particularly for those who have spent years being capable, in control and on top of things.
If menopause is affecting your relationships, your sense of self, your work or your mental health and you want a space to talk about all of it without being handed a leaflet, I would welcome that conversation.
Losing a job, especially a senior one that has defined you, is a particular kind of loss that the world tends to underestimate. It hits identity, status, self-worth and security all at once. People around you may not understand why you are struggling when from the outside it looks like an opportunity.
I have been made redundant and I know what it feels like. This is a space where you do not have to pretend otherwise.
Grief does not follow rules, and it does not keep a schedule. It shows up in the middle of ordinary days, in the things people say trying to be kind, in the anniversaries nobody else remembers. Whether your loss is recent or something you have carried quietly for years, there is no pressure here to be further along than you are.
I also have experience working with people bereaved by suicide, a particular kind of loss that carries its own complexity and often a silence that makes it harder to grieve.
I bring both professional experience through my voluntary work with The Blue Door and Samaritans, and personal understanding to this area.
If you are wondering whether counselling might help and are not sure where to start, just get in touch. You do not need to have it figured out before you reach out.
Stepfamilies, co-parenting, the push and pull of building a new family alongside an existing one. This is territory that gets very little airtime but causes a great deal of quiet pain. I live this. I work with individuals and couples navigating the specific pressures of blended family life, with all the guilt, loyalty and love that comes with it.
You do not need a dramatic event to seek support. Sometimes it is the fears you have not said out loud. The pressure to be perfect that nobody asked you to carry but you carry anyway. The hidden things. The sense that you should be managing better than this.
That’s enough of a reason.
Not sure whether any of this is you? Get in touch. The first conversation is free and there is no commitment beyond that call.
Book Free ConsultationHere is what happens next.
A free 20-minute conversation by phone or video. Tell me what is going on, as much or as little as you want, ask anything you want to ask, and get a sense of whether working together feels right. No obligation and no paperwork.
If you decide to go ahead, I will send you a short client agreement and we will arrange your first session. Nothing starts until you are happy with how it works.
Sessions are 50 minutes. We work at your pace. Things tend to move when trust builds, and that takes as long as it takes.
Sessions are 50 minutes. I offer individual and couples counselling both in person in East Yorkshire and online. Available Monday to Thursday 08:00 to 20:00, Fridays and Saturdays 08:00 to 18:00. In person and online are offered at the same rate.
| Individual sessions | £60 |
| Couples sessions | £80 |
| Reduced rate singles | £50 |
| Reduced rate couples | £70 |
| Corporate | On request |
Payment & Cancellation
Payment is taken at the time of booking. Sessions not cancelled or rescheduled more than 24 hours in advance will be billed automatically. Full details are in your client agreement.
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I am not available for therapeutic support between sessions. If you need to contact me to rearrange or cancel an appointment, please use email or phone and keep contact to practical matters only.
I will not follow, connect with or respond to clients on personal social media platforms. This protects the therapeutic relationship and your confidentiality.
If we happen to see each other in public I will not acknowledge you unless you acknowledge me first. This protects your confidentiality. You are not obliged to acknowledge me and I will not be offended if you do not.
While gifts are kindly meant, I cannot accept them in line with professional guidelines. If you wish to express appreciation, a review on a professional directory is always welcome.
This is counselling. Not coaching.
I want to be straightforward about that, because it matters.
I have been that person. Senior director across multiple sectors, constant travel, the one everyone looked to. I know the weight of that and I know how quietly and gradually things can come apart. I also know how rarely the people around you in that environment are the right ones to talk to about it.
I still take occasional consultancy work in supply chain and strategy. I am not standing outside your world looking in. I understand the culture, the pressure and the language because I am still in it.
I work withAlongside counselling I hold a qualification in civil and workplace mediation. This is not family mediation. If your organisation is dealing with conflict that sits below the threshold of formal HR action, or between individuals who need a structured and confidential route forward, please get in touch directly to discuss.
Rates for corporate work are agreed directly. Get in touch and we will have a straightforward conversation about what works.
Get in TouchJust reach out. The initial consultation is free and there is no pressure beyond that first conversation. I will come back to you within one working day and everything stays between us.
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DEBELL LTD (trading as DeBell Counselling). Data Controller: Debra Bell. Address: Cottingham, East Yorkshire. Email: contact@debell.co.uk. Phone: 07867 818018. Website: www.debell.co.uk. ICO Registration Number: ZC125133.
DeBell Counselling is a private counselling practice. This policy explains what personal data we collect, why we collect it, how we use it, and your rights in relation to it. It applies to clients, prospective clients, and visitors to our website.
For clients and prospective clients we collect: contact information (name, email address, phone number, postal address), date of birth, GP name and surgery, emergency contact details, health and mental health information shared in the course of counselling, session notes and clinical records, payment and invoicing records, and communications between you and Debra Bell by email or phone.
If you use the contact form on our website we collect your name, email address, phone number, and the content of your message. We do not use tracking cookies for advertising purposes.
To provide counselling services and manage the therapeutic relationship, to communicate with you about appointments and invoices, to keep clinical records as required by professional standards, to ensure the safety of you and others including safeguarding obligations, to comply with legal and professional obligations, and to process payments.
We rely on legitimate interests, legal obligation, vital interests, and contract as appropriate under UK GDPR. Special category health data is processed under Article 9(2)(h) UK GDPR, processing necessary for the provision of health or social care.
Your data is confidential. We do not sell, rent, or share your personal data with third parties for marketing purposes. We may share in the following limited circumstances: with our clinical supervisor (Joy Wanless) in professional supervision; with your GP, emergency services or statutory authorities where there is a serious and imminent risk to life; and with third-party service providers including Zanda Health (practice management, GDPR-compliant and ISO 27001-certified) and Stripe (payment processing), both bound by data processing agreements. We may also share if required by law or court order.
Client records are retained for seven years following the end of therapy, in line with BACP guidance. If a client was under 18 at the end of therapy, records are retained until their 25th birthday. Records of prospective clients who did not proceed are retained for six months then securely deleted. Financial records are retained for six years in line with HMRC requirements. After the relevant retention period, records are securely and permanently destroyed.
Client records are stored using Zanda Health. All data is encrypted in transit and at rest. Paper records are stored in a locked cabinet. Email communication is conducted via a secure business email account.
Under UK GDPR you have the right of access, rectification, erasure, restriction, data portability, and the right to object. To exercise any of these rights, contact Debra Bell at contact@debell.co.uk. We will respond within one calendar month. Some rights are limited in the context of health records and we will explain any limitations when you make a request.
If you have a concern about how we handle your personal data, please contact Debra Bell in the first instance at contact@debell.co.uk. If not satisfied, you have the right to complain to the ICO: www.ico.org.uk | 0303 123 1113.
This policy is reviewed annually or whenever there is a significant change to how we process data. The current version is always available at www.debell.co.uk and on request by email.
DeBell Counselling is committed to providing a professional, ethical, and high-quality service. If something goes wrong, or you are unhappy with any aspect of your counselling, we want to know. Raising a concern will not affect your therapy or your relationship with Debra Bell.
You may raise a concern about any aspect of your experience with DeBell Counselling, including the conduct or behaviour of Debra Bell, how a session was handled, a breakdown in communication, administration, fees or invoicing, how your personal data has been handled, or any other aspect of the service.
In the first instance, please raise your concern directly with Debra Bell, in person during or after a session, by email at contact@debell.co.uk, or by phone on 07867 818018. Debra will acknowledge your concern within two working days and provide a full written response within ten working days.
Concerns about data protection should also be directed to Debra Bell in the first instance. If you are not satisfied, you may escalate to the ICO at www.ico.org.uk.
If you are not satisfied, put your complaint in writing to contact@debell.co.uk, marked Formal Complaint. Include your name and contact details, a clear description of your concern and when it occurred, what you have already raised and how Debra responded, and what outcome you are looking for.
Debra will acknowledge your formal complaint within three working days. A full written response will be provided within 20 working days. If an extension is needed she will notify you in writing and give a revised timescale.
If you remain dissatisfied after completing Steps One and Two, you may refer your complaint to the BACP Professional Standards team. You do not need to complete Steps One and Two before contacting BACP if you believe there has been a serious breach of professional conduct.
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DeBell Counselling keeps a written record of all complaints received, the responses given, and the outcomes. Records are held securely and in accordance with our Privacy Policy.
Debra Bell takes all concerns seriously and uses them as an opportunity to reflect on and improve her practice. Where a concern identifies a systemic issue she will take steps to address it and, where appropriate, discuss it in clinical supervision.
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